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It is frustrating and even alienating to feel misunderstood or ignored. How confident are you that God really understands you?

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1 Samuel 1

The birth of Samuel

1 There was a certain man from Ramathaim, a Zuphite from the hill country of Ephraim, whose name was Elkanah son of Jeroham, the son of Elihu, the son of Tohu, the son of Zuph, an Ephraimite. He had two wives; one was called Hannah and the other Peninnah. Peninnah had children, but Hannah had none.

Year after year this man went up from his town to worship and sacrifice to the Lord Almighty at Shiloh, where Hophni and Phinehas, the two sons of Eli, were priests of the Lord. Whenever the day came for Elkanah to sacrifice, he would give portions of the meat to his wife Peninnah and to all her sons and daughters. But to Hannah he gave a double portion because he loved her, and the Lord had closed her womb. Because the Lord had closed Hannah’s womb, her rival kept provoking her in order to irritate her. This went on year after year. Whenever Hannah went up to the house of the Lord, her rival provoked her till she wept and would not eat. Her husband Elkanah would say to her, ‘Hannah, why are you weeping? Why don’t you eat? Why are you downhearted? Don’t I mean more to you than ten sons?’

Once when they had finished eating and drinking in Shiloh, Hannah stood up. Now Eli the priest was sitting on his chair by the doorpost of the Lord’s house. 10 In her deep anguish Hannah prayed to the Lord, weeping bitterly. 11 And she made a vow, saying, ‘Lord Almighty, if you will only look on your servant’s misery and remember me, and not forget your servant but give her a son, then I will give him to the Lord for all the days of his life, and no razor will ever be used on his head.’

12 As she kept on praying to the Lord, Eli observed her mouth. 13 Hannah was praying in her heart, and her lips were moving but her voice was not heard. Eli thought she was drunk 14 and said to her, ‘How long are you going to stay drunk? Put away your wine.’

15 ‘Not so, my lord,’ Hannah replied, ‘I am a woman who is deeply troubled. I have not been drinking wine or beer; I was pouring out my soul to the Lord. 16 Do not take your servant for a wicked woman; I have been praying here out of my great anguish and grief.’

17 Eli answered, ‘Go in peace, and may the God of Israel grant you what you have asked of him.’

18 She said, ‘May your servant find favour in your eyes.’ Then she went her way and ate something, and her face was no longer downcast.

19 Early the next morning they arose and worshipped before the Lord and then went back to their home at Ramah. Elkanah made love to his wife Hannah, and the Lord remembered her. 20 So in the course of time Hannah became pregnant and gave birth to a son. She named him Samuel, saying, ‘Because I asked the Lord for him.’

Hannah dedicates Samuel

21 When her husband Elkanah went up with all his family to offer the annual sacrifice to the Lord and to fulfil his vow, 22 Hannah did not go. She said to her husband, ‘After the boy is weaned, I will take him and present him before the Lord, and he will live there always.’

23 ‘Do what seems best to you,’ her husband Elkanah told her. ‘Stay here until you have weaned him; only may the Lord make good his word.’ So the woman stayed at home and nursed her son until she had weaned him.

24 After he was weaned, she took the boy with her, young as he was, along with a three-year-old bull, an ephah of flour and a skin of wine, and brought him to the house of the Lord at Shiloh. 25 When the bull had been sacrificed, they brought the boy to Eli, 26 and she said to him, ‘Pardon me, my lord. As surely as you live, I am the woman who stood here beside you praying to the Lord. 27 I prayed for this child, and the Lord has granted me what I asked of him. 28 So now I give him to the Lord. For his whole life he shall be given over to the Lord.’ And he worshipped the Lord there.

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Here is Hannah, in this well-known story, a childless woman in a society where fertility is a sign of God’s blessing. Her husband loves her, but she has failed to provide him with a son. (Polygamy was not common at this time in Israel’s history, so we can assume Elkanah took a second wife to make sure of an heir.) He understands neither the depth of Hannah’s sorrow (v 8), nor the bitterness between his two wives (v 6). For whatever reason, he has failed to settle this domestic rancour.  

Eli, the priest, also misunderstands Hannah when she goes to pray in the Lord’s house. He thinks she is drunk (v 14). Is she forever condemned not to be taken seriously?! She is very straight with Eli who, to his credit, responds graciously. We are also told Elkanah continues to love her and allows her to fulfil the vow she has made to God. 

In sharp contrast, God has heard Hannah’s cry from the heart, understands and responds. She is confident of this for she leaves Eli with a spring in her step. She recognises God’s gift to her (v 27). 

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Ro Willoughby

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God searches and knows us inside out (Psalm 139:1). Praise God this is true. As Hannah did (vs 27), worship him for the times you have experienced his understanding love. Ask God to give you the sensitivity to understand others in his name.

Deeper Bible study

‘What a friend we have in Jesus, all our … griefs to bear.’1 

At different points in our lives, most of us face painful issues about which we plead with God. Sometimes, as for Hannah, it’s childlessness. For me it was singleness and deafness. This chapter speaks to all of us, whether or not God answers our prayers as we would like. It also reminds us that sometimes God’s answers can be costly.

We can sympathise with Hannah, facing not only her rival’s taunts (very understandable if she was a second wife, to ensure some children), but also her husband’s obtuseness! Perhaps if Elkanah had made more effort to understand, perhaps if he’d asked, ‘Don’t you mean more to me than…?’ instead of the other way round, Hannah might have been comforted. As it was, however unintentionally, he merely rubbed salt in the wound, because to be his wife without children certainly hadn’t been enough! It’s a challenge to us: to try to get beyond our own perspective, to see through the other person’s eyes and to take that person seriously.

Hannah prayed, she wept and she was willing to go further, should God answer her prayer – a vow she carried through faithfully a few years later (weaning in the ancient Near East took at least three years, often over five).2 It must have cost her to leave her young son behind, but she had been serious when she offered that prayer and God was going to honour that, using Samuel in a big way. What, though, if our prayers never seem to be answered? Will we turn bitter towards God? Will we try to force things and make mistakes in the process? Or will we, like Paul,3 accept God’s answer of ‘no’ and trust him? His purposes are far greater than ours and if we are serious in our praying he can use our circumstances to fulfil those purposes.

Pray for anyone you know who is struggling with unanswered prayer.  

1 Joseph Scriven, 1819–86  2 Mary Evans, The Message of Samuel, IVP, 2004, p29  3 2 Cor 12:7–9      

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Vivien Whitfield

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