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Prepare
What’s your conflict resolution style? Do you tend to attack aggressively? Ignore issues and hope they’ll go away? Confront caringly?
Bible passage
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4 You are as beautiful as Tirzah, my darling,
as lovely as Jerusalem,
as majestic as troops with banners.
5 Turn your eyes from me;
they overwhelm me.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
descending from Gilead.
6 Your teeth are like a flock of sheep
coming up from the washing.
Each has its twin,
not one of them is missing.
7 Your temples behind your veil
are like the halves of a pomegranate.
8 Sixty queens there may be,
and eighty concubines,
and virgins beyond number;
9 but my dove, my perfect one, is unique,
the only daughter of her mother,
the favourite of the one who bore her.
The young women saw her and called her blessed;
the queens and concubines praised her.
Friends
10 Who is this that appears like the dawn,
fair as the moon, bright as the sun,
majestic as the stars in procession?
He
11 I went down to the grove of nut trees
to look at the new growth in the valley,
to see if the vines had budded
or the pomegranates were in bloom.
12 Before I realised it,
my desire set me among the royal chariots of my people.
Friends
13 Come back, come back, O Shulammite;
come back, come back, that we may gaze on you!
He
Why would you gaze on the Shulammite
as on the dance of Mahanaim?
7 How beautiful your sandalled feet,
O prince’s daughter!
Your graceful legs are like jewels,
the work of an artist’s hands.
2 Your navel is a rounded goblet
that never lacks blended wine.
Your waist is a mound of wheat
encircled by lilies.
3 Your breasts are like two fawns,
like twin fawns of a gazelle.
4 Your neck is like an ivory tower.
Your eyes are the pools of Heshbon
by the gate of Bath Rabbim.
Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon
looking towards Damascus.
5 Your head crowns you like Mount Carmel.
Your hair is like royal tapestry;
the king is held captive by its tresses.
6 How beautiful you are and how pleasing,
my love, with your delights!
7 Your stature is like that of the palm,
and your breasts like clusters of fruit.
8 I said, ‘I will climb the palm tree;
I will take hold of its fruit.’
May your breasts be like clusters of grapes on the vine,
the fragrance of your breath like apples,
9 and your mouth like the best wine.
She
May the wine go straight to my beloved,
flowing gently over lips and teeth.
Explore
The conflict (see yesterday’s note) is on its way to a successful resolution. Solomon reaffirms how special this woman is to him (6:4,9; 7:6) but, despite using language reminiscent of the wedding night, he initially avoids mention of her lips, neck or breasts, with their more sexual overtones (6:5–7; compare 4:1–7). Since the rift was sparked by her rejection of his advances (5:2), this seems a wise move! Instead, Solomon focuses on her uniquely special place in his heart (6:8,9). Although her response is not recorded, it is implied that the couple were reconciled (6:10,13).
In the joyous process of making up, Solomon woos his wife with poetic praise. The seven attributes he had extolled on their honeymoon are now upped to ten – another number symbolic of completeness – although this time, he begins with her feet and moves up her body (7:1–5). Might the increased number of attributes and the more elaborate and erotic imagery represent deeper knowing and growing appreciation of his wife of some months (perhaps even years)?
Someone likened the engagement period to ‘an exciting introduction to a dull book’. Solomon and the Shulammite would beg to differ! As they kiss and make up, it is clear that the excitement and delight of their dating days have not abated as they move forward in their journey of marriage (7:13).
Respond
Pray for those experiencing disconnection in relationships.
Bible in a year
Read the Bible in a year: Daniel 10–12; Psalms 135,136
Pray for Scripture Union
Give thanks for the way in which SU Mission Enablers are helping to connect Faith Guides together into supportive networks, so that they can share their experiences and spur one another on. (This week's prayers relate to this article.)